So today I walked into work like any other day, said good morning to my office mates and one of them was feeling under the weather yesterday so I asked her how she was feeling.
She gave a very Professional Response but added I am feeling fine spoke with the Director and am all good, I did not get hurt at work and do not have a workplace injury. I was completely thrown off and just said OK put my headphones in and talked myself out of being bothered by it.
Now my response is from the fact that this is Project that I am hoping will end before the remaining 4 weeks, but should I have handled it another way.
So, I asked ChatGPT for some workplace advice as one does in this technological age:
COLLEAGUE IS PASSIVE AGRESSIVE HOW TO HANDLE
Dealing with a passive-aggressive colleague can be challenging, but it’s important to maintain professionalism and not let their behavior affect your work. Here are some steps you can take to handle a passive-aggressive colleague:
- Address the behavior directly: If a colleague’s passive-aggressive behavior is impacting your work, it’s important to address it directly. You can try saying something like, “I noticed that you seem to be upset with me, could you please let me know what’s going on?”
- Stay calm: When dealing with passive-aggressive behavior, it’s important to remain calm and not let the behavior get under your skin. This will prevent the situation from escalating.
- Set boundaries: If the passive-aggressive behavior continues, it’s important to set clear boundaries. You can say something like, “I don’t appreciate the way you are communicating with me. I need you to speak to me directly and professionally.”
- Seek support: If the situation is affecting your work, it’s important to seek support from a manager or HR representative. They can help mediate the situation and find a resolution that works for everyone.
It’s important to remember that passive-aggressive behavior is often a manifestation of deeper issues, and addressing the behavior directly can help resolve the situation and improve the workplace for everyone.
EXPRESS FEELINGS OF BEING LEFT OUT AT WORK
If you feel left out at work, it can be helpful to express your feelings in a clear and respectful manner. You can try saying something like:
“I have been feeling left out lately in team meetings and projects. I would like to be more included and feel like my contributions are valued.”
By expressing your feelings, you open the door for a dialogue with your colleagues and can work towards finding a solution that works for everyone. It’s important to approach the conversation in a non-confrontational manner, focusing on your own feelings and the impact on your work, rather than blaming others.
Now I must be honest, I was thoroughly impressed and taken back by these responses and in any other case I would be taking the advice so much more seriously if I wanted to alleviate any issues I was having with my co-workers. The fact that ChatGPT could be the objective counselor is mind-blowing.
After reading this why I am not doing this in my situation is the following and it comes down to context.
First and foremost, if my colleagues don’t want to communicate their challenges with me to me and instead just talk amongst each other it is not my responsibility to solve. The act of talking about someone and not to them is sometimes how office workers seem to bond regardless how incredibly childish it is, it brings about a sense of belonging to those in that circle. It is one of the reasons why I personal chose to start doing projects and contracts as I have always despised this sense of connection and just like my peers can be the problem as well when I also enact in this kind of behavior.
I find it not my business what other people think of me or if someone has a resolvable issue with me that is not communicated with me and instead to others.
It is not under my control or ability to make others express themselves or communicate with me if they are unhappy with something I have done to offend or cause harm, which means I am not responsible for misinformation about me and refuse to let that misinformation bother me.
Removing the fact, I will move on to another project in the month, the colleague from the beginning I have had not had the best relationship with.
Our experience levels are much different, but we are in the same role within the company.
From the jump she has always gossiped about her so-called friend, who was sick and coming to work, saying he shouldn’t be here sick and now she is coming in sick and obviously offended.
Her and I also have very similar personalities and I see the untreated ADHD in her work. I have admittedly been jealous that she has had an immediate connection with the field as she got her husband a job and a promotion with the field so now has that support.
I do however believe because I believe in GOD it will all just work out in the end and I must be on the other side being talked about or disliked is a way for me to learn I should not partake in that behavior.
Let me know what you think?